Past is Past

A man of many experiences told me to "avoid reopening the past and just concentrate on what you have now, because you will just destroy lives, yours, your current relationship and those involved in the past. "

I remember the movie "Mr. Woodcock" about Farly (played by Seann Willam Scott) who wrote the book "Letting Go". It's a light comedy that also makes you think if letting go is really easy.

I'm a pacifist, who wants harmonious relationships, values peace of mind and always thinks about the past, since they bring back happy memories. So, to let go of ALL the past is really impossible for me. I still keep memorabilia, pictures, notes, cards even from people whom I haven't seen or spoken to in years.

But, I see the point of the man of many experiences. It's opening the can of worms, Pandora's box from the past that could open a lot of emotions too.


In the end, the man of many experiences told me..."it's really up to you."

The 80/20 Rule

I read about this 80/20 rule in a relationship...

"In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship."

This got me thinking...Can we ever get the 100%?
Why does it have to be 80 and 20? Can't it be 90 and 10?
But I guess they're just using the Pareto principle.

I guess it's really hard to give up that 80% for just 20%. You will end up losing a lot.
For now, I guess it's true, just make most of what you have in the relationship to make it work.
Sometimes, happiness can be found in the smallest of things.

And I intend to keep it that way. =)

I'm Evolving

Check out my previous blog back in 2005:
http://hopeless-optimist.blogspot.com/2005_09_25_archive.html.

I think my blog was more interesting back then, it was so full of enthusiasm, youthful dreams, and hopeful.

I guess now, my new blog is stripped down to its bare essentials. It's more minimalist, straight to the point, yet still not revealing everything.

It's me who's evolving also, and it's for the better. I still have that enthusiasm, youthful dreams and I'm still hopeful despite everything that happened to my life.

However, when reality happens to you (that kind you thought only happens in a dramatic movie), you will look at life in a clearer pair of eyes. No more rose-colored glasses.

4 years fly by, and a lot of things happened.

It's time to evolve more, become the best that I can be. =)

Nothing Compares to You

Sometimes, you just have to stop comparing notes. It leads you nowhere. You just have to appreciate each person, situation, or thing with its own uniqueness and beauty...

As they say, “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”.

Back in Manila!

Dinagyang was fun! It was my first time to really walk the streets of Iloilo on this feast of Sto. Nino. It's really different when you are beside the tribes and you really feel the sound of the drums (as compared to watching the whole thing on TV).
During my 5-day vacation I was able to:
1. Eat lots and lots of fresh "kasag" (crabs) from Banate (brought by my tita)
2. Eat lechon manok.. can't get enough of it
3. Satisfied my craving for oysters (although my stomach really went bad after...had to throw up all I ate, but I'll still eat oysters)
4. Had a La Paz Batchoy snack at Ted's
5. Had an eat-all-you-can Japanese food at Maki's (although I ate shrimp tempura mostly, yum!)

So, that's how I gained 5 lbs in 5 days.. hehehe..

It was fun being with my cousins, had a night out, drank at MO2, had videoke at Annex, swam at Centennial resort (which we consider our backyard..hehehe).

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When we got back to Manila, had to send off my sister to the airport. She's going to be working in Canada. I'm so happy and glad for her, at the same time sad that she left. My parents dream of migrating there.

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On a lighter note, my agent texted me that I won a Canon digital camera! I wasn't surprised though, I was expecting to win the raffle in the office. The law of attraction worked! Heheheh.

Also, I know I will be lucky this 2009, I don't know why, but I know this is my year..Law of Positive Thinking...hehehe!

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Back to serious work again..

Going home!

Yes, I'm going home for Dinagyang! Well, what seems to be a week of merriment and fiestas for others is actually a week of relaxation for me.
It's time to take my mind off work and just relax and eat lots of fresh and healthy food. Looking forward to crabs, prawns, danggit, oysters, La Paz batchoy, pancit molo, Kong Kee siopao, Roberto's pancit guisado... ok, ok, not all might be healthy. =)
What I really miss though is my family... and my sister's going to Canada to work.. so, I guess this would be the last time we would be complete and it would probably be a year or two until we get together again.

However, I'm so happy for all of us. I feel so blessed that my parents and sisters are all enjoying life and I hope we will continue to be blessed with good health and good fortune this 2009.

Kung hei fat choy! =))

Unexpected Love

One topic in blogging that I really try to avoid is love and relationships. Because I don't want to turn it into a "Lovingly yours..." segment. Hehehe.
Anyways, can't help it. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow and see where it leads you..(maybe to a vast sea and nice beaches??) =)
I just want to say that my belief for "everything happens for a reason" is stronger than ever and that He is in control of my life.

That's the blog...short and sweet.

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