Past is Past

A man of many experiences told me to "avoid reopening the past and just concentrate on what you have now, because you will just destroy lives, yours, your current relationship and those involved in the past. "

I remember the movie "Mr. Woodcock" about Farly (played by Seann Willam Scott) who wrote the book "Letting Go". It's a light comedy that also makes you think if letting go is really easy.

I'm a pacifist, who wants harmonious relationships, values peace of mind and always thinks about the past, since they bring back happy memories. So, to let go of ALL the past is really impossible for me. I still keep memorabilia, pictures, notes, cards even from people whom I haven't seen or spoken to in years.

But, I see the point of the man of many experiences. It's opening the can of worms, Pandora's box from the past that could open a lot of emotions too.


In the end, the man of many experiences told me..."it's really up to you."

The 80/20 Rule

I read about this 80/20 rule in a relationship...

"In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship."

This got me thinking...Can we ever get the 100%?
Why does it have to be 80 and 20? Can't it be 90 and 10?
But I guess they're just using the Pareto principle.

I guess it's really hard to give up that 80% for just 20%. You will end up losing a lot.
For now, I guess it's true, just make most of what you have in the relationship to make it work.
Sometimes, happiness can be found in the smallest of things.

And I intend to keep it that way. =)